How to feel better about feeling broken

We are constantly bombarded with our ‘brokenness’ and the promise of a fix. An instant fix. A one tool only required fix.

I’ve spent the last couple of decades, and quite a lot of money, looking for ‘the fix’. That tool, strategy, blueprint blah blah blah that will fix (insert pain point here) and make me … well better. More centred. Happier. Richer. A better mother/wife/daughter/business owner.

Can you relate?

We’re looking for a one-time fix. THE DIET – the one that helps us lose weight (as close to instantly as possible please) so we can then go back to eating whatever we want, not exercising and never gain the weight again. One and done. (AND HELL YES I’D PAY FOR THAT 😊)

Of course, the reality is the one and done solution is a con. A fabrication.

And yet we feel like a failure. Why didn’t that work? Why am I still broken? It worked for all of the people in the testimonial.

Then our chatter mind kick in. You’re a failure. You’re not good enough. You’ll never be whole. You’re damaging your children/relationships/health. And we listen to the negative committee in our minds. Why do we listen?

Revelation – there is no ‘fix’

I’m a loving woman, with growing edges

Dr Claire Zammit

That’s it. That’s the truth of it.

I’m a work in progress.

There is no ‘one and done’.

I’m not broken. I don’t need to be ‘fixed’.  I’m growing my edges.

Which is fine with me because I love to learn. I love to try out new ideas or activities. I love to fold back the hidden parts. Look into the darker corners. Make progress with curiosity and a sense of fun.

My treasure box of ‘this will work this time’ solutions

So I’m not a failure. I’m a seeker and a teacher. The lessons, webinars, courses, workshops, and books have created a treasure box full of tools and understanding to draw on whenever I need them. Sometimes multiple times.

I’ve learned to understand myself better. Treat myself better. Be more compassionate and understanding of myself and others.

I’m unlearning family stories, shitty beliefs that hold me back, overthinking, wallowing and wishing and so much more.

I’ve learned amazing strategies to get out of my head, feel grounded and work with more ease.

When my daughter has a meltdown, I can help (she’s in year 12 with ridiculously unnecessary pressure piled on by outside influences). She’s learning the tools and working out which ones to use.

As I learn, I teach my daughter, nieces and other loving mothers who want their daughters to thrive, while growing their edges.

Your growing edges

My advice to you – take the pressure off yourself.

Your edges are growing. It’s a lifelong journey of curiosity, discovery and aha moments.

Relax into growing your edges. Trust that the right post or interview or book will appear when you’re ready – if you ask for it.

What are you asking for?

What do you want to learn … or unlearn?

Want to join our First Feel Good challenge? Add to your treasure chest and let us do the leg work to find fun ways to grow your edges.